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Tell me , please I hardly ever say this, but this book was too short I wanted Saeed Jones is a fantastic storyteller, even when he is telling stories that are heartbreaking and difficult to read His vignettes about finding his place as a young, gay black man from the South are powerful and vivid There are age old adages about how literature helps us understand others, and How We Fight For Our Lives is a window into experiences that are completely unlike my own.I wanted because the vignettes left some things out Roughly 2 3 of the way through the memoir, Jones frames a traumatic event as a turning point for him We re only given bits and pieces of how his thinking and behavior changed after this event, so I wanted to hear this part of the story, too The memoir ends in 2011, which seems like an odd stopping point for a very young man s story Jones was born in 1985, so 2011 2019 is roughly a quarter of his life I understand why he chose to end this memoir where he did, but I also wonder how he has grown since then Four stars Read How We Fight for Our Lives if you re interested in a powerful account of the author s intersectional experience Readers should be forewarned that some content is graphic Thanks to Simon Schuster and NetGalley for giving me a DRC of this book, which will be available for purchase on October 8th. Many thanks to Simon Schuster and NetGalley for an ARC of this book What a beautiful memoir from Saeed Jones Coming of age, coming out, relationships with family, a son and his single mother Racism, homophobia external and internal Without giving away any real spoilers, I must say it was genius of him to use his sex scenes to talk about the horror of racism And throughout the book his Mom shines through which makes me miss my own Mom What a brave young man to share his experiences with us Very real. It brings me great pain and joy to know Saeed Jones How We Fight For Our Lives will be set upon us all Pain for the collective loss and sorrow gay black boys have suffered, and joy in knowing that it is stories like these that will set us free.It s been a month since I read Saeed Jones How We Fight For Our Lives, and I fumbled so long to put words to its visceral glamour When I first heard of its arrival over the winter, I needed it immediately To imagine the amount of blood, sweat, and tears Saeed must ve sacrificed to saturate these pages is beyond me What emerges from that offering is a story of a gay boy coming into the blackness of his body, its starkest desires and demands, and an anthem of unsung single black mothers who must raise their boys to be their own saviors before it s too late.Front to back, no other book has echoed so much of my own experience as a gay black boy like this It took no effort at all to read Saeed s story with an empathetic heart because I have been living this story in real time There were so many instances I caught myself saying, I know what that feels like too and Yes Yes, that was me That s STILL me You never forget your first faggot Because the memory, in its way, makes you It becomes a spine for the body of anxieties and insecurities that will follow, something to hang all that meat on Before you were just scrawny now you re scrawny because you re a faggot Before you were just bookish now you re bookish because you re a faggot.Soon, bullies won t even have to say the word Nor will friends, as they start to sit at different lunch tables without explanation There will already be a voice in your head whispering faggot for them I was pricked with my first N word assault by another white boy whose vestige still haunts me in the faces of white men wanting to be friends, lovers, or bringers of harm I watched my mother s smile dissolve in the face of financial and spiritual uncertainty, and the tenacity with which she raged at every whisper of my sexuality and my little brother s autism I, too, have submitted to the dehumanizing fetishes of white men that can drive a vulnerable black boy to hate himself and others like him I know the sting of falling for straight men capable of nothing than breaking our hearts if not our whole being And above all, I still tussle with the prodigious fear of a lonely, loveless life because of who I was born to be.Thanks, Simon Schuster friends, for sending me this remarkable book and Saeed Jones, for sharing your light with the world If you liked my review, feel free to follow me parisperusing on Instagram. I read in one sitting, and woo this is one of those memoirs that will live with me forever It s raw and powerful and it s out in October, and if you re a fan of memoirs definitely have this one on your radar He s also one of my favorite people to follow on Twitter. ( FREE E-PUB ) ☣ How We Fight For Our Lives ♲ From award winning poet Saeed Jones, How We Fight for Our Lives is a stunning coming of age memoir written at the crossroads of sex, race, and power People don t just happen, writes Saeed Jones We sacrifice former versions of ourselves We sacrifice the people who dared to raise us The I it seems doesn t exist until we are able to say, I am no longer yours Haunted and haunting, Jones s memoir tells the story of a young, black, gay man from the South as he fights to carve out a place for himself, within his family, within his country, within his own hopes, desires, and fears Through a series of vignettes that chart a course across the American landscape, Jones draws readers into his boyhood and adolescence into tumultuous relationships with his mother and grandmother, into passing flings with lovers, friends and strangers Each piece builds into a larger examination of race and queerness, power and vulnerability, love and grief a portrait of what we all do for one another and to one another as we fight to become ourselves.Blending poetry and prose, Jones has developed a style that is equal parts sensual, beautiful, and powerful a voice that s by turns a river, a blues, and a nightscape set ablaze How We Fight for Our Lives is a one of a kind memoir and a book that cements Saeed Jones as an essential writer for our time.
This book is soooo good Saeed Jones is a force His skills as a poet is fully evident in the prose of this book Sexuality Humanity Blackness Family Grief It s all in here He is vulnerable and he is genius and just wow What a truly incredible memoir I devoured this in one sitting, couldn t put it down couldn t turn the pages fast enough and really wanted once I was finished How We Fight For Our Lives is powerful, captivating, heart wrenching and also full of strength I admire so much that these amazing humans allow us, complete strangers, to see into their world, to read their truth This is a memoir everyone needs in their life I highly encourage you to read this.Thank you so so much Simon Schuster Canada for my review copy I m blown away This is a gorgeous memoir about growing up gay and black in the south, about knowing that the odds are against you and trying to carve a space for yourself in a world where being a black gay boy is a death wish For Saeed Jones, forging his identity was about than just coming out, it was about living authentically in all the many ways and about the painful journey of finding out what that even meant.Jones life takes him from Texas, where as a young teenager he discovered his sexuality, to Kentucky where he went to college and embraced his budding sense of self, to New York City where he currently resides as a poet The raw and candid content of his memories is conveyed in powerful, lyrical prose that leave a searing impression.While the primary focus is Jone s own coming of age, this striking memoir also serves as a touching tribute to his mother, who raised him by herself Thanks to NetGalley for an advanced copy in exchange for an honest review. This book is fantastic There are so many moments of pure genius and poetry, and lines I will never forget Jones really captures what it feels like to not feel present in yourself and the life you are living It is beautifully both specific and universal. Saeed Jones has written a poignant and very personal memoir about being a gay black man He records his difficulty coming out to his mother and the personal anxieties that plagued him while growing up Just as some cultures have hundred words for snow , there should be a hundred words in our language for all the ways a black boy can lay awake at night.The author wins a scholarship to a Kentucky State University to b on their debate team Once at college, he becomes very sexually active with different men, using a fake name as his identity almost all the time By now, I knew the ins and outs of names that were not mine and how to wear them like bodies Every time I met a new man for sex, a new name blossomed in my mouth like a flower Saeed deals with his sense of non being, or erasing himself in order to be the son his mother wants It takes him years to realize that he can be himself and his mother will still accept him.My main criticism of this book is that at times too much information is provided The author discusses how one of his partners had not cleaned himself out and he is covered with feces after sex I could have enjoyed the book a lot not knowing this.Most of the writing is good, and even poetic at times Some of the writing, however, reads like the author s MFA thesis.