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I m a cartoonist and I face extensive online harassment, so I picked up this book in the hopes that Lindy s writing about her own experiences would help me my grasp my own Men, you will never understand Women, I hope I helped Comedy, you broke my heart Thanks Lindy, you did help. I say no to my own instinct to stay quiet I don t know if you ve kind of gotten this vibe from my reviews who am I kidding, you probably have , but I m a person who has an opinion on many things Just like Lindy West It took me a good couple of chapters to realize that that s exactly why I couldn t seem to enjoy her voice at first I liked what she was saying I just didn t like how she was saying it.And then I realized that I didn t like her tone because it was too well, loud Because I I say no to my own instinct to stay quiet I don t know if you ve kind of gotten this vibe from my reviews who am I kidding, you probably have , but I m a person who has an opinion on many things Just like Lindy West It took me a good couple of chapters to realize that that s exactly why I couldn t seem to enjoy her voice at first I liked what she was saying I just didn t like how she was saying it.And then I realized that I didn t like her tone because it was too well, loud Because I am loud, too, and it s something that I, until recently, have tried my best to change Because, when I talk about something that I strongly believe in, I talk about it passionately So much that I come off as aggressive and arrogant oftentimes Just like Lindy West But, unlike Lindy West, it makes me sad.This is Lindy West s book And we are very much aware of that What I mean is that, unlike some memoirs I ve read previously in my life, this book talks about things most of us think about or find important but not only that, she puts them in perspective by frequently using her own personal experiences as examples Plus, she defends her opinions Repeatedly This is another thing that took me time to understand I kept thinking, Why does she defend herself so much Does she really need to If so, why does she feel the need to And the answer is, Yes, yes, she does need to And she is very much entitled to defend herself How could she not In fact, in retrospect, if she hadn t defended her opinions, it would have been harder for her to convey, in a fierce, convincing way, that abortion is okay, that fat people deserve your respect and deserve to be treated fairly, that rape jokes are not funny and that misogynistic thoughts are not welcome in today s society, among other things.You know, when I was younger, before I knew I needed to choose my battles wisely, I would constantly get into trouble for fighting back, for defending myself, for talking back when I should have kept quiet and I always hated that part of me that felt the need to do all those things regardless of whether my actions would have consequences or not But I m tired of feeling sorry I m notpliable, softer, quieter, lovelier Because, after all, it got me this far.Blog Youtube Twitter Instagram Google Bloglovin Click here to watch a video review of this book on my channel, From Beginning to Bookend.Society has long held women to near impossible standards of beauty and urged them to remain quiet and reserved Outspoken women, who champion women s rights and advocate the importance of feminism, are often labeled with a slew of derogatory terms with negative associations Lindy West brave feminist, bold writer, and delightful humorist was never destined for a life of submissive silence In her savvy m Click here to watch a video review of this book on my channel, From Beginning to Bookend.Society has long held women to near impossible standards of beauty and urged them to remain quiet and reserved Outspoken women, who champion women s rights and advocate the importance of feminism, are often labeled with a slew of derogatory terms with negative associations Lindy West brave feminist, bold writer, and delightful humorist was never destined for a life of submissive silence In her savvy memoir, West recounts her transition from a shy child who was ashamed of her body to a successful woman who loves her body and isn t afraid to be loud I felt something start to unclench deep inside me What if my body didn t have to be a secret What if I was wrong all along what if this was all a magic trick, and I could just decide I was valuableand it would be true Why, instead, had I left that decision in the hands of strangers who hated me Denying people access to value is an incredibly insidious form of emotional violence, one that our culture wields aggressively and liberally to keep marginalized groups small and quiet No topic is off limits in West s memoir, and humor is always close at hand She opens with an amusing examination of the weighty existential question adults love to toss at children What do you want to be when you grow up The answer was ballerina, or, for a minute, veterinarian, as I had been erroneously led to believe that veterinarian was the grown up term for professional animal petter I would later learn, crestfallen and appalled, that it sa term for touching poo all the time featuring intermittent cat murder, so the plan was abandoned The fact that ANY kid wants to be a veterinarian is bananas, by the way whoever does veterinarian medicine s PR among preschool aged children should be working in the fucking White HouseWhether she s writing about abortion, America s obsession with female thinness, or her ailing father s battle with cancer, West comes across as candid and genuine She begins her memoir with amusing stories before diving intoserious topics like the dangerous precedent set by comedians casually telling rape jokes and the tragic consequences of internet trolling and fat shaming Her words are a rallying cry for activists and feminists Some may find her words offensive, uncomfortable, or difficult to accept, but she makes no apology for plainly stating painful truths Some readers, whose thoughts align with West s, will find themselves nodding considerably while others are liable to find their worldviews challenged and will, therefore, find West s memoir to be a thoughtful provocation There s a difference between church groups boycotting JCPenny because JCPenny put a gay couple in their catalog and gay people boycotting Chick fil a because Chick fil a donated millions of dollars to groups working to strip gay people of rights and protections Gay people wearing shawl collar half zip ecru sweaters does not oppress Christians Christians turning their gay children out on the streets, keeping gay spouses from sitting at each other s deathbeds, and casting gay people as diseased predators so that it s easier to justify beating and murdering them does oppress gay people While West tackles feminism, misogyny, internet trolling, abortion, relationships and the shortage of young, funny, capable, strong, good fat girls in television, movies, video games, and books, the topic of fatness permeates everything she writes West embraces the word fat with a refreshing sense of confidence and empowered self assurance, as evidenced by the time she went head to head with an apologetic internet troll who had previously taken trolling to an absurdly new low view spoiler by impersonating her dead father to send her demeaning comments over the web hide spoiler His voice was soft, tentative He was clearly as nervous as I was Well, he said, it revolved around one issue that you wrote about a lot which was your being heavy the struggles that you had being a woman of size, or whatever the term may be I cut in I hate euphemisms What the fuck is a woman of size, anyway Who doesn t have a size You can say fat That s what I say Fat Okay, fatFunny, poignant, and personal, Shrill showcases a powerhouse female taking some of society s worst behaviors by the ear and dragging them into the limelight for a proper spanking Lindy West doesn t come across as shrill in Shrill but as really smart, funny and gutsy This worked really well as an Audiobook I had never heard of West before reading Julie s excellent review, which got me curious Shrill is what essentially amounts to a collection of personal essays West is a proud outspoken feminist She writes about many topics, including her extreme shyness as a kid, her parents and upbringing, her battles with herself and others to change perspectives on what it means Lindy West doesn t come across as shrill in Shrill but as really smart, funny and gutsy This worked really well as an Audiobook I had never heard of West before reading Julie s excellent review, which got me curious Shrill is what essentially amounts to a collection of personal essays West is a proud outspoken feminist She writes about many topics, including her extreme shyness as a kid, her parents and upbringing, her battles with herself and others to change perspectives on what it means to have a big body and her battle with male comedians to tone down the prevalence of rape jokes I love West s candid funny fearless smart voice I love the way she skilfully and cleverly calls foul foul and an ass an ass I am at least a generation older than West, and I m excited to see smart young women like her reinvigorate the concept of what it can mean to be a feminist My guess is that there are a few Lindy Wests out there who have popped up over the last few years while I wasn t paying enough attention But all the better if her message and gutsiness aren t earth shatteringly original It gives me hope for the world my teenage daughter is growing up in Whoa.This was such a mixed bag for me To start with, the promotional quote on the front of the book reads, Lindy West is an essential and hilarious voice for women Hilarious Oh, cool Like David Sedaris No Not like David Sedaris By page 15 I was like hilarious And, not to be rude, but what s this book about The subtitle reads, Notes From A Loud Woman Okay So, a book of notes Yes A book of completely random notes, everything from owning a vagina to obscure name dropping of p Whoa.This was such a mixed bag for me To start with, the promotional quote on the front of the book reads, Lindy West is an essential and hilarious voice for women Hilarious Oh, cool Like David Sedaris No Not like David Sedaris By page 15 I was like hilarious And, not to be rude, but what s this book about The subtitle reads, Notes From A Loud Woman Okay So, a book of notes Yes A book of completely random notes, everything from owning a vagina to obscure name dropping of people in the stand up comedy scene in Seattle to internet trolls.Okay, a book of notes from someone I ve never heard of Editor, please This book s biggest issue is it lacks any central focus, and, even though Ms West is a decent writer, I didn t know her people, nor did I grow to care about her people, and I wasn t really laughing, either Almost none of it is funny, let alone hilarious However, it appears that Lindy West is wise beyond her years and she occasionally offers some fabulous life advice like Maybe if we didn t perpetuate the idea that vaginas are disgusting garbage dumps, government officials wouldn t think of vagina care as literally throwing money away Very few things apart from death and crime have real, irreversible stakes, and when something with real stakes happens, humiliation is the least of your worries I sat down on my bed and I didn t cry and I said, Okay, so this is the part of my life when this happens Sometimes smart, good people are just a little behind I sometimes think of people s personalities as the negative space around their insecurities Comedy, in particular, is a tremendously powerful lever of social change When satire is aimed at the powerless, it is not only cruel it s vulgar People boycott because boycotting works and,importantly, because it is the only leverage available to us Maybe we ll start treating rape like other crimes when the justice system does.Good stuff, right I had post it notes on many pages, making certain I d remember these great lines for my review.Yet, in between some of this almost startling for her age wisdom, there is also name dropping, name dropping, name dropping, my Volvo my Volvo, my Volvo Her Volvo is mentioned frequently Never my car, but my Volvo Bosses who we will never know or need to know are mentioned by name, many emails and texts from work are included and there is, well, I m sorry, but quite a bit of patting oneself on one s back here.Also, it turns out that Lindy West is fat her word, not mine , and for about 6 chapters I was told why fat people can t help but be anything be fat apparently, you re either born fat or you re not , fat is fabulous, and no one should EVER be concerned about anyone s weight.Now, I ve never been fat, nor have I ever been rude to anyone who is fat , but, I will be honest, when I see a severely overweight person, I think depressed Frankly, I think that, given our ridiculously high drug, alcohol and suicide rates, ignoring someone s obesity seems irresponsible to me I m not saying this is MY job, unless it s my spouse or my child , but, yes, I think that immediate family members and medical professions have a certain responsibility to acknowledge obesity.The sections on being fat and the very random sidebars regarding her love life and work life actually bordered on boring and bizarre for me There was a serious lack of cogency for me here, throughout much of this read.Then, the last third of the book deals with the very public stance Lindy has taken on our casual acceptance of violence and rape toward women in stand up comedy This was the part where I sat up the straightest and paid the most attention I have always felt that too many male stand up comedians have walked a fine line of speaking flippantly about violence toward women and I applaud Ms West s courage in standing up to the MANY disgusting human beings who have used the most vile, insulting language to bully her online and have actually threatened her life as well This part of the book was VERY upsetting and deserves to be discussed in a group setting.But, then when the book ended with a chapter entitled abortion is normal and a book jacket promoting Lindy s ShoutYourAbortion cause, I felt conflicted again Shout your abortion Really There were moments during this read where I gave a chuckle I especially loved the chapter about demystifying periods , and there were moments when I felt proud of Ms West s ability to jump into a discussion of inflammatory topics, but there were equal moments of passages that felt self aggrandizing I also felt, at times, that Ms West likes to be noticed, likes the attention Is it always for an altruistic reason I m not sure.I can t really say who would or wouldn t like this read, but you can probably ascertain, from the length of my review, that it would at least make for a potentially heated discussion or debate I don t want to have another fucking conversation with another fucking woman about what she s eating or not eating or regrets eating or pretends to not regret eating to mask the regret OMG, Lindy You are speaking my language I don t want to have those conversations eitherever a fucking gain I am so over all of it filtered pictures on Instagram, Fakebook, Crossfit, competitive weight loss groups, narcissism, before and after photos, pictures of salad, underwear sports bra selfies I jus I don t want to have another fucking conversation with another fucking woman about what she s eating or not eating or regrets eating or pretends to not regret eating to mask the regret OMG, Lindy You are speaking my language I don t want to have those conversations eitherever a fucking gain I am so over all of it filtered pictures on Instagram, Fakebook, Crossfit, competitive weight loss groups, narcissism, before and after photos, pictures of salad, underwear sports bra selfies I just can t When did we go from spending time hiking biking swimming because we like it to going to the gym, hoping to stream an extra workout at home before I go train for a half marathon When did talking about diet and working out become the only conversation This is the most quotable book I ve ever read or heard I listened to the audio, then grabbed the hardcover at the library Rather than say too much here, I will let the quotes sink in and speak for themselves Women matter Women are half of us When you raise every women to believe that we are insignificant, that we are broken, that we are sick, that the only cure is starvation and restraint and smallness when you pit women against one another, keep a shackled by shame and hunger, obsessing over our flaws rather than our power and potential when you leverage all of that to sap our money and our time that moves the rudder of the world It steers humanity told conservatism in the walls of the narrow interesting man, and he keeps us adrift in waters where women s safety and humanity are secondary to men s pleasure and convenience.That was on page 19 I already knew this was a 5 star book To me, the above is a mike drop statement, but Lindy West isn t a mike drop kind of women She stays for the conversation, stands up for what she believes, and she does so with wit, respect, and intelligence This book of essays addresses a whole slew of terrifically important issues It is the perfect combination of ferocity and vulnerability This woman has my deepest respect I was very drawn to the stories about her interaction with her fat shaming boss, her crusade against rape jokes and facing her worst Internet troll, but there was much to appreciate and ponder in almost every essay I will do my best to get this book into the hands of as many people as I can Her voice is valuable, sensible, empowering, and sorely needed in today s world Though I was less enamoured with two of the essays, this is still for me 5 stars Other quotes I found brilliant Don t trust anyone who promises you a new life Pick up artists, lifestyle gurus, pyramid scheme face cream evangelists, Weight Watchers coaches These people make a living off of your failures If their products lived up to their promise, they d be out of a job I reject the notion that thinness is the goal, that thin better that I am an unfinished thing and that my life can really start when I lose weight You can t fix a problem by targeting its victims.Feminists don t single out rape jokes because rape is worse than other crimes we single them out because we live in a culture that actively strives to shrink the definition of sexual assault that casts stalking behaviors as romance blames victims for wearing the wrong clothes, walking through the wrong neighborhood, or flirting with the wrong person bends over backwards to excuse boys will be boys misogyny makes emotional and social costs of reporting rape prohibitively high pretends that false accusations are adire problem than actual assaults elects officials who tell rape victims that their sexual violation was god s plan and convicts in less than 5 percent of rape cases that go to trial .DOWNLOAD EBOOK ☩ Shrill: Notes from a Loud Woman ♊ Coming of age in a culture that demands women be as small, quiet, and compliant as possible like a porcelain dove that will also have sex with you writer and humorist Lindy West quickly discovered that she was anything but From a painfully shy childhood in which she tried, unsuccessfully, to hide her big body and even bigger opinions to her public war with stand up comedians over rape jokes to her struggle to convince herself, and then the world, that fat people have value to her accidental activism and never ending battle royale with Internet trolls, Lindy narrates her life with a blend of humor and pathos that manages to make a trip to the abortion clinic funny and wring tears out of a story about diarrheaWith inimitable good humor, vulnerability, and boundless charm, Lindy boldly shares how to survive in a world where not all stories are created equal and not all bodies are treated with equal respect, and how to weather hatred, loneliness, harassment, and loss and walk away laughing Shrill provocatively dissects what it means to become self aware the hard way, to go from wanting to be silent and invisible to earning a living defending the silenced in all caps On sale for 2.99 on US Kindle March 16, 2019 This is not the sort of book I normally read While I do like memoirs and nonfiction, it s not my usual go to But as an overweight fat woman and feeling discouraged lately, I decided to check out a couple of fat positive books from my library As I read this book, I immediately found it engaging andthan that, I could relate to so much of what Lindy West was saying It resonated with me in a huge way hehe, see what I did there I don t hav On sale for 2.99 on US Kindle March 16, 2019 This is not the sort of book I normally read While I do like memoirs and nonfiction, it s not my usual go to But as an overweight fat woman and feeling discouraged lately, I decided to check out a couple of fat positive books from my library As I read this book, I immediately found it engaging andthan that, I could relate to so much of what Lindy West was saying It resonated with me in a huge way hehe, see what I did there I don t have many friends, and even less fat friends I can vent and confide in Hearing Lindy say all these things fat people go through was freeing and it felt nice to hear somebody saying a lot of things I had felt since I was a teenager.If you re overweight and you have to fly, do you worry about taking up too much space Of offending the people next to you I am actually in another state right now, traveling for work, and I had to deal with this just last week Unless you re fat, you have never had to worry about the seat belt fitting you I was relieved that I wasn t so fat that the seat belt wouldn t fit me I NEVER touch the arm rests I feel like I am obligated to let the people beside me have the arm rests because of my size My flight was only three hours, but by the end, I wanted to cry because I had tried to remain perfectly still with hunched shoulders to allow those next to me as much room as possible I was starting to feel pain from being so still My Kindle fell on the floor towards the end of the flight and I had so much anxiety trying to figure out how I was going to scoot down and retrieve it I was embarrassed.This is what Lindy said about flying If you ve never tried cramming your hips into an angular metal box that s an inch or two narrower than your flesh under the watchful eye of resentful tourists , then sitting motionless in there for five hours while you fold your arms and shoulders up like a dying orchid in order to be as unobtrusive as possible, run, don t walk It s like squeezing your bones in a vise The pain makes your teeth ache I once spent a tearful eight hour flight from Oslo to Seattle convinced I could feel my femurs splintering like candy canes It hurts.When I read this, I wanted to cry because she understands I have seen news clips about fat people flying and the argument whether they should buy two tickets, etc But I have never had a discussion about it or read someone essay about it I have so muchcompassion for those bigger than me, who have to ask for seat belt extenders I will never complain, unless you take your shoes off because that is just an evil thing to do on a plane.Here are some other great quotes Part of that anxiety came from the fact that, as a fat kid, I was already on high alert for humiliation at all times When your body itself is treated like one big meat blooper, you don t open yourself up to unnecessary embarrassment Men made wanted babies with beautiful women Men made mistakes with fat chicks.As a woman, my body is scrutinized, policed, and treated as a public commodity As a fat woman, my body is also lampooned, openly reviled, and associated with moral and intellectual failure.Fat people are already ashamed It s taken care of No further manpower needed on the shame front, thx I am not concerned with whether or not fat people can change their bodies through self discipline and choices Pretty much all of them have tried already A couple of them have succeeded Whatever My question is, what if they try and try and try and still fail What if they are still fat What if they are fat forever What do you do with them then Do you really want millions of teenage girls to feel like they re trapped in unsightly lard prisons that are ruining their lives, and on top of that it s because of their own moral failure, and on top of that they are ruining America with the terribly expensive diabetes that they don t even have yet You know what s shameful A complete lack of empathy.But when you re a fat person, you can t hide your vulnerability, because you are it and it is you Being fat is like walking around with a sandwich board that says, HERE S WHERE TO HURT ME That s why reclaiming fatness living visibly, declaring, I m fat and I am not ashamed is a social tool so revolutionary, so liberating, it saves lives.There are so many other excellent parts of the book and I am so happy I read it Topics also covered are about her family and how she has been trolled on Twitter and elsewhere She writes for magazines and opinion pieces for online sites and dared to argue against stand up comedians using rape jokes Rape jokes are never funny, people Even if being ironic or for free speech or whatever excuse you want to use Complete strangers said extremely hateful things, including wishing she would get raped herself It also covers how she handled fat shaming from one of her bosses and just what it is like being fat in today s world.I didn t even know who Lindy West was, but I am a total fangirl now Reading this book has even made me understand feminism a littleand now, I don t see how anyone can be a female and not be a feminist I used to say I was a crappy feminist, but how can I not be one while being a part of a marginalized group I am not only fat, but middle aged, timid, and white Completely invisible I will never use the word cougar again because it implies that older women should make and keep themselves hot enough for young men to have sex with A MILF is someone a younger male feels is sexy enough to screw Not have a loving relationship with, but just to f Objects to use for physical pleasure and joke about it This last section is something I started to think about after reading the book the topic wasn t covered Anyhow, this is a very long review, but I had a lot of feels and it kicked ass, so I had a lot to say about it Plus, I wanted to share some quotes to hopefully influence some others to try this one out I checked it out from my library and loved it so much that I am buying my own copy to add to my library Lindy West, you are crazy smart, hilarious, so talented, beautiful, and an inspiration In 2017, society still expects women to keep quiet, move aside for men, and comply to the rules Lindy West s courageous and humorous memoir, Shrill, details her journey in breaking free from these expectations as a successful stand up comic, popular internet writer, and fat woman She blends the personal and the political well, moving from how she developed her love of comedy to how she confronted sexist bosses and internet trolls West addresses an array of unpleasant subjects misogyny, rape In 2017, society still expects women to keep quiet, move aside for men, and comply to the rules Lindy West s courageous and humorous memoir, Shrill, details her journey in breaking free from these expectations as a successful stand up comic, popular internet writer, and fat woman She blends the personal and the political well, moving from how she developed her love of comedy to how she confronted sexist bosses and internet trolls West addresses an array of unpleasant subjects misogyny, rape culture, fatphobia, etc with admirable self awareness and an important thesis we must stop men from harassing women, and we must empower women to speak up against this harassment The jokes she injects into several sections of this book speak to the power and precision of her voice, that she can both view herself with self deprecating humor and still slay the patriarchy with her insights One of the many quotes I lovedWomen matter Women are half of us When you raise every woman to believe that we are insignificant, that we are broken, that we are sick, that the only cure is starvation and restraint and smallness when you pit women against one another, keep us shackled by shame and hunger, obsessing over our flaws rather than our power and potential when you leverage all of that to sap our money and our time that moves the rudder of the world It steers humanity toward conservatism and walls and the narrow interests of men, and it keeps us adrift in waters where women s safety and humanity are secondary to men s pleasure and convenience I appreciated so much about Shrill, and out of all of its stellar qualities, I really connected with West s honesty about her struggle She writes about how, as a fat, opinionated woman on the internet, she receives so much toxic vitriol from men who cannot stomach the idea of a large, outspoken woman sharing her brilliant ideas and cultivating success in the world West articulates how she overcomes men s discriminatory views toward women, and she also shares the pain and heartbreak these men made her feel Her willingness to expose this deep reservoir of emotion within herself moved me, and I could not help but cheer for her as she turned her sorrow into art and activism time and time again In 2017, the era of toxic masculinity and unregulated racism, we needloud women who also understand white privilege like Westthan ever, as well as men who will guide other men to aloving path I would recommend Shrill to everyone in search of a fierce, funny, and oh so necessary read I will end this review with a quote from the end of the book, a snippet of West s final rallying cry for us allI think the most important thing I do in my professional life today is delivering public, impermeable no s and sticking to them I say no to people who prioritize being cool over being good I say no to misogynists who want to weaponize my body against me I say not o men who feel entitled to my attention and reverence, who treat everything the light touches as a resource for them to burn I say no to religious zealots who insist that I am less important than an embryo I say no to my own instinct to stay quiet It s a way of kicking down the boundaries that society has set for women be compliant, be a caregiver, be quiet and erecting my own I will do this I will not do that You believe in my subjugation I don t have to be nice to you I am busy my time is not a public commodity You are boring go away.That is world building. I have been a big fan of Lindy West for a few years now I use one of her stories from Back Fence PDX when I teach Storytelling, as a jump off point to encourage students to tell about a time they overcame adversity When I heard she was coming out with a book, I was excited, and knew I d want it in audio This was no mistake This was the book I needed even though I didn t know I needed it Lindy covers fat shaming, feminism, abortion, marriage, and internet trolls if you know her work at all I have been a big fan of Lindy West for a few years now I use one of her stories from Back Fence PDX when I teach Storytelling, as a jump off point to encourage students to tell about a time they overcame adversity When I heard she was coming out with a book, I was excited, and knew I d want it in audio This was no mistake This was the book I needed even though I didn t know I needed it Lindy covers fat shaming, feminism, abortion, marriage, and internet trolls if you know her work at all none of these topics should be a surprise She continues to fearlessly write for the internet despite horrific trolling experiences, and perhaps, she and I like to think, she has had a hand in changing the culture from being permissive about online harassment One can only hope.I think there are two audiences for this book people who already agree with everything Lindy West writes about, and the people who started to dismiss this review the minute I used the phrase fat shaming Lindy delves deep into her own life and shares her experiences, and I hope this can produce empathy in some readers She is braver than I am I don t want the people who love me to avoid the reality of my body I don t want them to feel uncomfortable with its size and shape, to tacitly endorse the idea that fat is shameful, to pretend that I m something that I m not, in deference to a system that hates me Please don t forget I am my body When my body gets smaller, it s still me When my body gets bigger, it s still me There s not a thin woman inside me awaiting excavation I am one piece