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People with Asperger s are well known for their ability to focus, their often higher than average IQ s, and for sometimes having savant abilities They are often considered nerds or brains because of their intellectual abilities coupled with their social awkwardness Whenever I ve seen anything on TV about Asperger s, it s always about a socially inept genius sort That seems to be the common stereotype of people who have Asperger s But imagine if you were diagnosed with Asperger s and had the People with Asperger s are well known for their ability to focus, their often higher than average IQ s, and for sometimes having savant abilities They are often considered nerds or brains because of their intellectual abilities coupled with their social awkwardness Whenever I ve seen anything on TV about Asperger s, it s always about a socially inept genius sort That seems to be the common stereotype of people who have Asperger s But imagine if you were diagnosed with Asperger s and had the social ineptness but not the smarts Imagine that your IQ was in fact lower than average, and that you had great difficulty focusing for very long Well, that s my niece She was diagnosed with both Asperger s and ADHD As one Aspie girl in the book said,What really makes me uncomfortable is when Aspie campaigners couch that leave us alone argument in the myth that all AS people are super intelligent mathematician science savants and some sort of master race That makes me feel, as an Aspie who doesn t have any of that, I m a double fail I fail at being normal, and also fail at being AS My niece is in special education and at least a couple years behind most kids her age She has difficulty focusing for long periods, and does not like reading like the typical Aspie does She is not androgynous in appearance or interests like the book s author says most Aspie girls are My niece is a girly girl who likes wearing makeup and doing her hair Her favorite color is pink and she loves shopping, Britney Spears, Miley Cyrus, and Aquamarine Her senses do not seem to be easily overloaded and she does not have an aversion to touch like many Aspies She loves hugs, and can never seem to get enough of them.What my niece does have in common with typical Aspies is lack of social aptitude, literal mindedness, difficulty making friends, anxiety, panic attacks and meltdowns, stimming, echolalia, selective mutism, physical clumsiness,and the need for structure, routine, and predictability.Due to my niece s dual diagnosis of Asperger s and ADHD, reading a book on Asperger s is sometimes frustrating because a lot of it does not apply to her, and in fact can run counter to her symptoms and personality I would like to note that I know another person,an adult male with Asperger s, who also has other learning disabilities It makes me wonder how many other Aspies are out there who have also been diagnosed with other learning disabilities.I think the biggest way this book helped was in making me realize that my mother and I need to listen to our niece , and not be too quick to think she s trying to manipulate to get out of things I think a lot of this has come from perhaps well intentioned but uninformed counselors and teachers I also have a better idea of how to deal with meltdowns I realize that a lot of what I ve done might have made things worse The absolutely new thing I learned was about selective mutism, and I now recognize it in my niece, have relayed that info to my mom, and she now knows not to pressure my niece for a response when she is in this state This book embodies a disturbing paradox, pointed out to me by someone close to this topic personally on the one hand, Simone appropriates a clinical label which is now part of Autism Spectrum Disorder, far less cool than Asperger s BTW to give weight to her creation of a new identity, Aspergirl yet on the other hand she essentially dismisses the disciplines of psychiatry and psychology as backwards and ineffective This feels disingenuous, a calculated move to gather in those feeling lik This book embodies a disturbing paradox, pointed out to me by someone close to this topic personally on the one hand, Simone appropriates a clinical label which is now part of Autism Spectrum Disorder, far less cool than Asperger s BTW to give weight to her creation of a new identity, Aspergirl yet on the other hand she essentially dismisses the disciplines of psychiatry and psychology as backwards and ineffective This feels disingenuous, a calculated move to gather in those feeling like outsiders and then isolate them from the discipline that would, in my mind, give concrete, data backed answers and recommendations which might not validate Simone s viewpoint, all thereason for her to dismiss and discredit it.I was a quirky, smart, sometimes painfully awkward girl, and I ve known many quirky girls and women in my lifetime All of us grew and adapted a few better than others, but not a single one of us would I label with Asperger s or autism As a mental health clinician I see girls and women with a wide range of abilities and temperaments and issues, and perhaps one so far meets the criteria for ASD because she experiences actual impairment not just discomfort in various life domains What good is it to label an entire range of girls and women who don t meet society s norms but still function well Simone seems hell bent, frankly, on doing just that, and I wonder, again, how this constructed identity with a truly heavy clinical label of Austism now helps people Really, what s wrong with being just quirky To me, this book feels very cultish, like, look, you re part of this unique group of girls and women, and it s all really fabulous and any trouble you have is either society s misunderstanding of you or the psychologists misunderstanding or someone else s fault Yes, society has rigid roles and expectations, and we should celebrate differences and unique abilities rather than burden people with a sense of being not enough But to clinically label people who really are doing okay, especially with a label that applies to people true autistics, who along with their families faroften struggle with severe mental, cognitive, and emotional difficulties kind of offends me Autism is not cool, it is, when properly diagnosed by a trained, sensitive, and yes, compassionate clinician, a serious issue usually requiring intensive lifelong care I am not an Aspergirl My daughter is not an Aspergirl My neighbor s daughter diagnosed with autism at age 2 is not an Aspergirl, and her mother said she almost threw the book out a window after reading about 3 paragraphs This was a book that definitely gave me a lot to think about because even though I m positive my computer design engineer father has Aspergers, it never occurred to me until recently that I might have it I m now pretty sure that I do the reasons are too numerous to list, but having had the same breakfast for the past 20 years and finding my weird pattern matching ability described as fluid intelligence and an Aspergers savant skill Yeah.I also had a lot of trouble with this book, bec This was a book that definitely gave me a lot to think about because even though I m positive my computer design engineer father has Aspergers, it never occurred to me until recently that I might have it I m now pretty sure that I do the reasons are too numerous to list, but having had the same breakfast for the past 20 years and finding my weird pattern matching ability described as fluid intelligence and an Aspergers savant skill Yeah.I also had a lot of trouble with this book, because it seemed too touchy feely, without enough references beyond the author s other books And then I hit a sentence that exponentially increased my resistance to the book depression exists because there s a problem in your life Oh, hellafuckno sometimes it does, to be sure, but sometimes it s a purely biochemical sort of thing that you have little control over I liked reading this book about autistic females and am autistic myself, though most of the women described are higher functioning than me I lookedtypically autistic as a child and continue to struggle with daily living tasks as an adult I related a lot to the discussion on relationships and meltdowns I liked the idea of depression meltdowns as I experience those, as well, though that s partly due to my bipolar I do not believe autism is caused by gut stomach issues, though, which I liked reading this book about autistic females and am autistic myself, though most of the women described are higher functioning than me I lookedtypically autistic as a child and continue to struggle with daily living tasks as an adult I related a lot to the discussion on relationships and meltdowns I liked the idea of depression meltdowns as I experience those, as well, though that s partly due to my bipolar I do not believe autism is caused by gut stomach issues, though, which the book delved into toward the end Though I will admit it seems like a lot of autistics have stomach issues, as well as things like depression or anxiety I don t know how much information was new to me, but things were presented in a new manner, at least Being a parent of a girl with autism biases my reading interest toward books on the topic, and to date I have read a lot Aspergirls is quite atypical of many i have read and refreshing in style.Rudy Simone has Asperger s Syndrome AS and has been a strong advocate for those with the condition for some years Her approach to writing is to say it as it is, and simply She does this to good effect What I particularly like about this tome is she quotes regularly from interviewed girls and women w Being a parent of a girl with autism biases my reading interest toward books on the topic, and to date I have read a lot Aspergirls is quite atypical of many i have read and refreshing in style.Rudy Simone has Asperger s Syndrome AS and has been a strong advocate for those with the condition for some years Her approach to writing is to say it as it is, and simply She does this to good effect What I particularly like about this tome is she quotes regularly from interviewed girls and women with AS and consequently adds many voices to hers in her coverage of a myriad of topics, from challenges in schools, to the impact of puberty on aspergirls Nothing is taboo There were also a few quotations that caused me to laugh out loud it s good to be able to infuse some humor in what is a topic that can get quite serious.Another aspect of the structure of the book is that at the end of each topic chapter , Rudy summarizes by providing direct advice to aspergirls, followed by advice to aspergirl parents This is smart, very smart, as the two target audiences are vastly different and covers her audience well andimportantly, sends clear messages to the two most important groups that affect aspergirls.I found the book useful, but I have to concede that the book is overwhelmingly targeting Asperger s Syndrome, not other folk on the Autism Spectrum My daughter is a high functioning autistic girl, and has many challenges that differ from AS And yet the common ground was useful, evidenced by having discussions with my wife on various statements made.All in all I found the book useful, clearly written, and sensibly structured This book is no doubt important the author makes an excellent point at the beginning about how the entire Asperger s diagnosis has been modeled after male patients, and that the hallmarks of the disorder in women are less well defined I appreciate that she obviously did her homework in speaking with a large group of Aspergirls and genuinely giving her best advice to young women with Asperger s and to their parents.However, this book is entirely based on anecdotal evidence with little to no This book is no doubt important the author makes an excellent point at the beginning about how the entire Asperger s diagnosis has been modeled after male patients, and that the hallmarks of the disorder in women are less well defined I appreciate that she obviously did her homework in speaking with a large group of Aspergirls and genuinely giving her best advice to young women with Asperger s and to their parents.However, this book is entirely based on anecdotal evidence with little to no actual research or science involved In the later chapters, after the author suggests that some Aspergirls may have psychic powers, she makes completely unfounded generalizations about gut disorders being a possible root cause of ASD and then proceeds to organize a nebulous trial with ten volunteers and a mysterious gut benefiting vitamin supplement using no controls As someone who has a background in science, this was hard to take, and I m nervous that some women may read this book and take everything here as gospel without any further research I ve struggled with writing this review, because this book has good qualities and I think it s very helpful for someone who suspects that they or their child has AS However, it is heavily slanted by the personal experiences and point of view of the author So much so that at times it put me off or distracted me from the information I wanted I would recommend this book to teen and adult readers, but there s not much that can help a young child Though there are stories that can help the parent I ve struggled with writing this review, because this book has good qualities and I think it s very helpful for someone who suspects that they or their child has AS However, it is heavily slanted by the personal experiences and point of view of the author So much so that at times it put me off or distracted me from the information I wanted I would recommend this book to teen and adult readers, but there s not much that can help a young child Though there are stories that can help the parent of a young child better understand their behavior I would also recommend this book to anyone interested in better understanding AS, and especially for anyone looking to better understand how gender is a factor in diagnose and social acceptance of disabilities like AS and Autism I ESPECIALLY recommend this book to mothers of autistic children I suspect that many of us actually have undiagnosed AS and reading this book really highlights the similarities I share with my children and helped me better understand and empathize with them On the whole this a good, book, a fast read and very informative I just wish there had been some other, contrasting opinions and experiences to balance the author s views This book is about Rudy Simone s life experience as an Aspergirl She comes across as bitter and her views are anything but empowering She states that people with AS should embrace their unique strengths and then goes on to suggest that autism is caused by the mythical leaky gut and that symptoms can be mitigated by taking certain supplements This is pseudoscience at its best She also claims that Aspergirls have psychic powers I m not kidding If you are a parent considering giving this This book is about Rudy Simone s life experience as an Aspergirl She comes across as bitter and her views are anything but empowering She states that people with AS should embrace their unique strengths and then goes on to suggest that autism is caused by the mythical leaky gut and that symptoms can be mitigated by taking certain supplements This is pseudoscience at its best She also claims that Aspergirls have psychic powers I m not kidding If you are a parent considering giving this book to your daughter, please read it thoroughly first Your daughter deserves accurate, scientifically based information about AS Simone paints a bleak picture for Aspergirls, suggesting that they are unlikely to complete college or find suitable mates without a lot of extra support Her self loathing is evident in her writing and I do believe her views could be harmful to young women I hope another, better qualified advocate will write a book on empowerment for Aspie girls This one fails miserably Simone s passion is clear here, but sometimes a bit muddled and misguided I m trying to find it charming, though.A few things that are bothersome about her writing often contradicts herself Within a few pages, she ll say that girls with Aspergers are emotionally immature, then talk about how she ismature than her peers, than go back to discussing her fondness for kids movies because she semotionally immature.She discusses how women on the autism spectrum often don t have an innate u Simone s passion is clear here, but sometimes a bit muddled and misguided I m trying to find it charming, though.A few things that are bothersome about her writing often contradicts herself Within a few pages, she ll say that girls with Aspergers are emotionally immature, then talk about how she ismature than her peers, than go back to discussing her fondness for kids movies because she semotionally immature.She discusses how women on the autism spectrum often don t have an innate understanding of femininity and are drawn to androgynous expressions of gender and yet, remains firmly within a heteronormative, cisgendered perspective Perhaps I am judgmental of this perspective because I come from a queer background It is also mildly irritating that she consistently makes proclamative statements about very specific things that individuals with Aspergers would be good at for example, Dads, the great thing about having an AS daughter is that she will belikely to want to help you fix the car and build a fort than help Mom cook dinner at other points in the book she essentially states that Aspergirls will be good at dismantling computers but not cooking imaginative dinners I find this kind of essentializing to be somewhat detrimental those things do not define Aspergers and will probably alienate Aspergirls who ARE interested in non science math things looking for guidance and then being told that yet again, here s a place where they don t fit in properly.Some of the advice is very solid whereas other bits are misguided at best She lambasts college counselors at their efforts to get an Aspergirl to try harder at socializing yet her very own advice to Aspergirls in the socialization section is paraphrased keep trying at socializing until you are better at it `Epub ☘ Aspergirls: Een wegwijzer voor meisjes en vrouwen met het Syndroom van Asperger ⇗ Vrouwen worden minder vaak dan mannen gediagnosticeerd met het syndroom van Asperger Niet alleen omdat Asperger minder vaak voorkomt bij vrouwen, maar ook omdat de kenmerken bij vrouwen anders worden waargenomen Bovendien kunnen vrouwen de symptomen beter maskerenDat de diagnose minder vaak wordt gesteld, betekent helaas dat veel vrouwen met Asperger niet of nauwelijks worden begrepen Door zichzelf, maar ook door hun omgeving En als de diagnose uiteindelijk is gesteld, dan is er meestal weinig hulp en informatie voor handenDaar komt met Aspergirls gelukkig verandering in Aan de hand van persoonlijke verhalen van meer danvrouwen met Asperger bespreekt Rudy Simone alle aspecten van het leven van vreemde talenten en eerste gevoelens van schuld en schaamte tot vriendschap en romantiek Van pubertijd en school tot werk en carri re Van rituelen, emoties en woedeaanvallen tot gezondheid, kinderen krijgen en ouder worden De humorvolle, liefdevolle en respectvolle wijze waarop Simone over deze onderwerpen schrijft, zullen Aspergirls van alle leeftijden tot grote steun zijn